Author’s Notes 1

Introduction 5
Why Me? 8

In the Beginning 11
The Cave 13
The Eyes Have It 14
How Real Men Evolve 15
The Myth of the Real Self 17
The Nice Guy 17

Life Challenge 1

Public Self vs. Private Self 25
The Shadow 27
The Ego vs. the Spiritual Self 33
The Work 35

Life Challenge 2
Power vs. Control 41
The Powerful Man 45
The Constructive Cave 51

Life Challenge 3

Engulfment vs. Abandonment 59
What is Engulfment? 59
What is Abandonment? 59
Defining ‘Two’-getherness 64
The Attraction 66
The Struggle 67
The Demise 69
Respect and Love 76
Trust and Love 76
Support and Love 76

Life Challenge 4

Challenge vs. Regret 79
The Hero 79
Heroism Lives On 80
The Doubts 81

Life Challenge 5

Youth vs. Mortality 89
Retirement 89
The Ken Phenomenon 91
Toys Are Us 94
Good Sport, Bad Sport 95
Mortality and Immortality 97
Questions for Women in Relationships 99

Recommendations 101
Tips for His and Her Physical Well Being 103
Tips for the Relationship 104
Tips for His Emotional/Spiritual Well-Being 104
Conclusions for Guys 106
Final Recommendations for the Guy 108
Tips for His Physical and Emotional Health 108
Tips to Enhance your Communication Skills 109
Tips to Improve your Relationship 110
Final Words of Wisdom 110

Transforming ‘Two’-getherness (TT) 113
Couples Enrichment Project

Contact Information 115

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